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Submissive Discipline - 45 BDSM Punishment Ideas

Punishment is a pretty strong word.

 

It evokes the dread we felt when we were children and our parents caught us doing something wrong or we slacked at work and the boss tore us a new one.

 

It’s also a key tool in BDSM relationships.

 

The trick is finding a set of punishments that will correct the submissive’s behavior and result in something more positive.

 

For example:

 

 

A submissive regularly shows up late to sessions, dates, etc.

 

If they love corporal punishment, spanking them will only reward them.

 

Instead, make them sit and write 50 reasons why being late is a bad thing then read it out loud. They spend the entire allotted time on the list, rather than having a pleasant experience with their Mistress/Master.

 

What would be discipline for one person, would be a reward for another. 

 

Here are some more ideas:

 

 

RESTRICTIVE OR DENIAL


 

 

  • Chastity belts
  • Orgasm edging
  • Early bed time
  • Deny orgasms for X# of days or weeks or months
  • Take away the right to publicly speak for themselves for x-hours
  • If there is more than one slave, make them prepare you to have sex with your other slaves. They get nothing and must watch.
  • Deny them attention or the right to come over and see you
  • Go without food for one day
  • Take away anything they enjoy or love for x# of days etc.
  • If they don’t like collars, make them wear one around the house. If they love their collar, take it away.

 

HOWEVER, keep in mind that in some BDSM instances (or for certain couples etc), a collar is as serious as a wedding band. To take it away as a punishment would be rather hash, so use with discretion.

 

 

 

PRODUCTIVE


 

 

  • Make them run an errand wearing a long coat with nothing underneath
  • Make them run a public errand while wearing ben wa balls
  • Do their daily routine around the house with a vibrating butt plug in their ass
  • Make them serve you dinner and wait on you in the nude
  • Make them write an essay

 

 

PAIN OR DISCOMFORT


 

 

  • Wear clothes pins in a sensitive place
  • Schedule them a Brazilian wax
  • Force a (short) cold shower on them
  • Force orgasms with a Hitachi wand
  • Wash mouth out with soap
  • Weights on nipples, penis, or testicles
  • Wear an uncomfortable ball gag
  • Kneel on uncooked rice for 3 minutes, and then clean it up      
  • Do a certain chore while bound or physically restricted in some way
  • Some sort of sensory deprivation, perhaps while performing another punishment
  • Hold pennies against a wall (one for each finger) in whatever position you choose
  • X number of strikes with whatever implement, but they must count each one and either say thank you or ask for the next one
  • Soak a glass dildo in cold water and insert. Never use ice as this kind of punishment because it could cause damage

 

 

HUMILIATION


 

 

  • Naked exercise
  • Announce every time they are horny and why
  • Masturbate in front of (willing) guests
  • Act like an object or a piece of furniture
  • Talk about how and why your sub disappointed you
  • Write the infraction on their body with permanent marker
  • Make them walk around with cum in their panties or bodies all day
  • If it’s a male, make them dress in female’s clothes for the day
  • Eat from a pet dish, or on a plate if they usually eat from an animal bowl
  • Record their orgasms and make them their ring tone and message alerts
  • Write dirty things on their body, such as “Dirty Slut,” “Cum Dumpster,” or “Cock Whore”

 

 

BORING OR MENTAL


 

 

  • Isolation
  • Write lines
  • Give them a lecture on why they were bad
  • Sit in a corner and think about what they’ve done
  • Make them eat something super healthy and bland as hell – like boiled mushy cauliflower.

 

MY FAVORITE: “Make them learn to code C++ while listening to 'the world’s worst song' on repeat.”

 

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Do you have any good punishment ideas? Let me know!

 

Have a kinky day!

Robyn

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