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What is Pegging - Learn the Next Level of Anal Play

If you’re here looking for articles on finances, cribbage, or manufacturing reports…

 

Turn around and walk away – right now.

 

Because we’re talking about the OTHER kind of pegging.

 

The one that involves the bum.

 

For those who haven’t come across the term yet, get comfortable.

 

So, what is pegging?

 

It's the sexual practice where a female partner wears a strap on dildo and penetrates a man.

 

Image via Vice.com - Wish my company meetings were like this.

 

Simple, yeah?

 

Not so much ... because it scares the hell out of a lot of guys.

 

Mostly because there are still ridiculous misconceptions out there about anything surrounding the ass.

 

  • The anal canal itself is fairly clean. Poop mistakes only happen if your partner doesn’t bother going to the bathroom beforehand (and knew there was a “delivery” on standby).

 

  • Anal sex can be just as pleasurable as other kinds of stimulation.

 

  • Being pegged does not make someone less of a man. So ditch the machoism.

 

Would every male like it?

 

No.

 

Some are too freaked out to even think about it and the entire process involves the partner RELAXING.

 

My submissive actually loved being pegged, so I’ve had enough experience to know the ins and outs of the process.

 

 

ADVICE FOR BEGINNERS & CURIOUS


 

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It’s no different from any other kind of anal sex. Your partner needs to be relaxed and the anus needs to be slowly stimulated and…

 

Although the word “stretched” is accurate, it scares many people.

 

First, he’s not going to be stretching it that much – we’re not talking German porn videos here.

 

Think of it this way, you have *cough* bowel movements every day that are of comparable girth.

 

Second, the anus muscles will go back to normal after you’re done. So forget the “stretched out forever” myth/bullshit you heard.

 

Try “anal trainers” if you’re having difficulty – they are butt plugs that start very thin and each one graduating in thickness.

 

If he’s never done any anal play before, get a thinner dildo first.

 

 

USE LOTS OF LUBE!!

 

And when I say lots, I mean: apply, insert, add more, insert again. Repeat. And probably repeat again. Whatever you think is enough, add more … and then more, and as you play … and more again.

 

The anus doesn’t get wet like a vagina and it will need help.

 

Also, stay away from warming and cooling lubes. They might do more harm than good.

 

Get a lubricant that is meant for anal sex (the anal environment as a different PH) and check if it’s water based or silicone.

 

If it is water based, you’re okay to go.

 

If it’s silicone, make sure your dildo is NOT SILICONE.

 

FYI: Silicone disintegrates silicone = ruined toy.

 

And don’t bother with those crappy, tiny harnesses. You need something that is going to fit you securely, without shifting around or coming undone – and therefore moving the dildo around in uncomfortable ways.

 

Try something like this…

 

 

  • Different sized rings, leg and hip straps, adjustable

 

Not this…

 

 

  • Straps are too thin, elastic and it only fits that dildo.

 

 

Also, make sure the dildo base is wide enough it won’t slip through the harness ring.

 

When you’re ready to go, slowly insert the dildo and hold onto the base so you have more thrusting control and your man finds his comfort zone.

 

 

 

  • Also, it’s a good idea to check out this lube guide before you buy anything.

 

 

On a final note...

 

Many guides include “how to talk to your partner about (insert sexual act here)” but there’s already something similar in the anal guide … AND it doesn’t matter how much prep or advice you get, each couple’s first conversation will be totally different.

 

The main thing is to be patient, non-judgmental, open, and caring. And if they give you a firm NO, then that’s your answer.

 

Whether M-F or F-M, you don’t push things and respect their feelings.  

 

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Any pegging enthusiasts out there who have harness or dildo preferences?

 

Please share!

 

Have a kinky day,

Robyn

 

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